Like I said in the last post, even as we were leaving the ultrasound we started our list of questions and that list just kept getting longer. Does this change what Michelle should be doing as far as eating and exercise? How about prenatal vitamins? We were planning on a 38 or 39 week c-section since Michelle had fibroid surgery in 2011 so now what will they do? It is tricky because average gestation for triplets is only 32-33 weeks! And you really don't want to go earlier than that but of course we want to be sure Michelle isn't at undue risk either!
We went for our first appointment in Danville on Friday April 12th. It takes about an hour and a half to drive to Danville and I have a feeling we are going to get pretty sick of that drive! The first person we met with was a fellow (as in a guy doing a fellowship) and he was nice, but awkward. I know they have to do this, but he basically just went through a big list of the risks associated with multiple pregnancies which is pretty intimidating. And because we are who we are, we had already done a lot of research and already knew all of this. He asked if we had questions, so we asked about diet and exercise and about the plan for the c-section. He couldn't really answer either question for us. So when he asked if we had any more questions we were thinking "Well, since you haven't answered any questions so far...no!" The "real" doc came in and repeated almost verbatim the list of risks! Michelle started crying and the guy totally back pedaled and apologized. They left to get a print out of supplement recommendations and Michelle was like "I wasn't even crying because i was scared, I was crying because I am so frustrated because I feel like this is a waste of time and we aren't learning anything!" I was just floored by the way he freaked out when Michelle started crying! Really, Mr. Maternal Fetal Medicine...you see women in high risk pregnancy situations every single day...I would think that these women with raging hormones in stressful situations cry on you at least daily! Eventually he did answer our questions about diet and also told us that if everything was going well he would let Michelle go until 35-36 weeks. That was great news! But by far the best part of the visit was the ultrasound. So at this point we were at 9 weeks 3 days. The ultrasound tech was super friendly and positive and sooo excited for us! What saws amazing was that even as tiny as they all were (about the size of grapes) they were already moving their arms and legs! We got to see all their heartbeats and they all measured pretty close again, though so far Baby A is the bruiser. =)
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| Baby A- 9wks 6 days, heartrate 171 |
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| Baby B- 9wks 4 days, HR 168 |
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| Baby C- 9wks 4 days, HR 178 |
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| Our little alphabet! |
My heart goes out to both of you about the frustrations with the doctors, but especially to Michelle who's also dealing with discomfort and hormones. Nothing can put fears in you like expecting a baby, but then being classified high risk too amplifies it. I know this is easier said than done but the very best thing for the babies is to stay calm, so wouldn't it be great to temporarily escape your analytical tendencies (ahem, I say from experience!)? I think you both need lots of massages!
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