Air Travel with Triplet Toddlers

I thought I'd jot down some of the things we tried and learned on our flights to and from Seattle with three 17 month olds for us to remember and to share with other moms of toddlers, particularly multiples.  

Tip #1: Sign up for both text & email alerts regarding your flight status!!!  My email to check-in for our flight went to my gmail "priority" inbox while the email about our flight cancellation somehow went to my promotion inbox & I didn't see it!!!  AAAAHHH! Nothing like getting three babies out of bed at 4am only to get to the airport & learn that your flight was cancelled!!!

Tip #2: Travel lightly!  Check bags, car seats, & strollers (if taking one) so you have as little stuff to manage in the airport & plane as possible because believe me, managing three toddlers is enough!  We packed one big bag for all five of us.  Knowing we could do laundry while we were in Seattle was helpful! Then we checked two car seats & carried on the third (see tip #7).  Some hard core car seat folks highly recommend gate checking car seats because of rough baggage handling, but personally I think car seats are made tough enough & we just knew that lugging three car seats through the airport would be too much.  The nice thing is that car seats & strollers get checked for free.  Our bag was just a tad overweight so we offloaded a few things into the car seat bags.  I was hiding things under the car seat fabric but have since had friends tell me that most agents don't care if you stuff your car seat bag with other things so that is helpful.

Tip #3: Use all available airport resources to keep them entertained so you don't have to dip into your airplane tricks!  Our tiny little airport has luggage carts out for anyone to use & this served to be a great distraction for a while!It also kept them all close & not running in all different directions.  Having a squirell-y one get off and push worked well too.

Tip #4: Do some quick internet reconn to see if there are any kid-friendly play areas to let off some steam between flights.  If you are flying through OHare they have a great Kids on the Fly play area that has tons of things for kids to explore.  Our original flight plan had us with a very short layover at OHare & would have been very tricky.  Our flights the next day had about a three hour layover and while on paper that seemed agonizingly long, thanks to the Kids on the Fly play area though, it actually worked out great.

climbing steps into the plane was great for tiring them out!

the liked running up & down the ramps too!

Tip #5: Alternate ways to burn energy! If there's no play areas then you have to work a little harder but you can still get some of that toddler energy out in the terminal & keep them entertained.

walking & running around the airport & helping pull the suitcase

moving walkways can be lots of fun too & while they can be tricky
to get on & off, while you're on them, they are pretty easily contained/redirected!
(warning, if they fall they might get a little grease on their pants)

watching planes & trucks kills some time too!

their were some airport carts parked near one of our gates &
climbing on & off that kept everyone entertained for a bit...

Tip #6: Baby carriers rock for getting through airports! Did you know that you can wear your baby (or babies as the case may be!) through security?  They just have to swab your hands to make sure you aren't carrying a bomb in your baby. =)  They are also great for getting down those narrow plane aisles & still having hands free to pull/lug a suitcase or car seat. (See the next two tips re:car seats)!  And carriers work well for walking naps in the airport too!

double duty naptime

Tip #7: Always opt for an extra set of hands when possible!  So, while kids are under 2 they can be lap babies, but you can only have one lap baby per adult.  This policy is a very good policy for many reasons...one of which is that it keeps crazy spendthrift triplet moms like me from thinking "I'm sure I could manage two babies on my lap in a space the size of a shoebox for hours straight!".  Okay, I'm really truly not that crazy, but I do like to travel, don't have a ton of money, & do sometimes overestimate my own supermommy powers so let's just say, I can see how it might happen. =)  

Anyway, getting back to the point...this means that when you have three toddlers you need to purchase a third seat.  Your choice then is to try to rope an unsuspecting family member or friend into making the trip with you & holding the third baby or to lug a car seat along for that baby.  My first choice is almost always to go for option A because the extra set of hands makes lots of things easier including carrying/herding babies through the airport & entertaining them on the plane.  We were lucky that it did work out for us to bring a third adult for the first two big trips with the babies at 6 & 9 months old, but that isn't always an option (though we did ask around for this trip too!)  Even better was the flight with my sister & her family where our adult to child ratio was 5:4 & we could pass the kiddos around & go to the bathroom alone or just sit quietly for a few minutes while someone else walked the aisles!  Also important to know when you are booking travel for triplet toddlers is that you can't all sit in the same row of 3 on one side of the plane!  The online systems will let you book the seats, but you will have to be moved because there aren't enough oxygen masks.  Given that, I highly recommend booking seats in the same row but across the aisle or one behind the other.  If you have a third adult you can book aisle-aisle-middle, but if you have to bring a car seat then you have to do an aisle & then a middle & window across the way because you have to install the car seat at the window.  

Tip #8: Car seat Configurations:  When taking a third adult isn't an option, then you really need to do some advanced planning and ideally practicing to make the car seat on the plane experience less hellacious.  It's hard enough to sit in the tiny space allotted in coach nevermind get a car seat installed while you have one or more toddlers also in that space.  Before we left I checked with my sister who'd flown with car seats a number of times & got some tips & tricks from her.  We have two different car seats right now, the Combi Coccoro & the Diono Radian R100.  The advantage with the coccoro is that it is really light & Kate said it's very easy to install on a plane rear facing because you have easy access to the entire beltpath & it's pretty compact.  Both of our seats are the narrowest on the market--they have to be to fit 3 across--which helps when it comes to fitting them in a plane, but the coccoro is also not very tall so it doesn't impact the person sitting directly in front.  The radian is MUCH heavier & taller, but we still ended up taking it over the Coccoro & here's why...it was easier to get through the airport.  

We bought a cheap steel framed luggage rack from Amazon to attach the car seat to so we could pull it through the airport.  I tried to get the coccoro attached to it and no matter what I tried I couldn't get a secure fit because of the rounded shape of the bottom & certainly not in a way that I could actually buckle a kiddo into it.  The R100, on the other hand, was a dream to attach to the luggage rack & with one extra bungee at the top I could easily strap a kiddo into it & pull them around if I wanted.  This set up worked out great for us & because the seat is so narrow we were actually able to pull it down the plane aisle right to our row.  The day before our trip I spent 15 minutes or so of nap time practicing putting the car seat on the luggage rack & then taking it off & folding up the rack so I knew I could do it quickly & with minimal effort rather than stumbling around when people are waiting to get on or off the plane.  As you can kind of see in the picture of me wearing two babies we didn't end up pulling a kiddo in the seat at the airport, but we did stack our backpack & other carryon on the seat & pulled those. The backpack was actually heavier than the kids so that worked out well.  And the R100 has this great strap that is meant to hold the bottom seat up in a folded flat position that worked great through the top handle of the backpack to keep it secure.

We opted to install the seat forward facing on the plane to make things simpler & since we weren't really worried about the added saftey factor of rear-facing we thought the novelty of forward facing was worth it.  And it was!  I expected the battle to be convincing someone to sit in the car seat instead of on the lap, but actually there were a few fights over who got to sit in the seat!

I ran the luggage rack bungees across the seat & through each side
of the car seat & had one loop style bungee always on the top
of the R100 using the booster belt guides & then just pulled it up over the top of the rack

the kids enjoyed taking turns riding in the car seat on wheels

and they liked climbing on it in the airport too!

Tip 9: The balance of novelty & familiarity!  I think this is one of the tricky things about planning your in-flight toddler entertainment.  You want to find things that are fun & exciting, but you only have so much space so you kind of want to know if it's going to be a hit before you dedicate precious space to it.  And you know how toddlers want to read the same book ad nauseum, right?  So they dig familiar things too.  So figuring out what "old stand bys" & how many new things to bring can be tricky.  One thing that I think can nelp with the old stand bys is to make them disappear for a week or so before the flight so it has a little more pull.  Here are some things we did:

an old iPod touch (aka "phone") that they love to play with
loaded with classical music combined with new headphones =)

Small toys hidden in plastic easter eggs will occupy some time.  We used a few small figurines
that we know they like & also got some little party favor squishy bugs, etc
from the party section or dollar store to fill the eggs with.  The light up ring was a fav!

this would be better for slightly older toddlers though because
they got frustrated that they couldn't put them back together &
needed help to open them sometimes

safety manuals are always fun to look at, but the magazines are better
because you can rip out the pages & crinkle & rip the paper =)

standing up & playing peekaboo with the people behind is fun if they're
friendly.  We got lucky & had a mom & 2yo behind us on the first long flight!
Taking selfies & looking at the pics is also fun!

We lucked out & had a whole row to ourselves so I had all 3 babies with me for a few minutes.
Having the extra legroom of Economy Plus is a huge plus if you can swing it or get lucky like we did
and get upgraded simply because that's what was open when they rebooked us!  But really, they can stand
even in the tiny bit of legroom by the car seat & changing positions helps meet their need to move without
having to walk the aisles.  This is especially helpful when the beverage cart is out!

sitting on the floor is another "space" to occupy & mix things up!

Toddler friendly games on the iPad & phones will give you at least 5min.
Some of our favs are Itsy Bitsy Spider  & Wheels on the Bus by Duck Duck Moose
and Peekaboo Barn

And you can always hope for a nap, but know that even if your flight is timed during nap
that the chances are they'll be wound & crazy & overtired for at least 30 minutes (or 90!) before they
finally give in & take the nap they so desperately need!  Trying to do some quiet activities
to help them settle down for a nap  can help.  Make sure that if you have "loveys" that they are handy for this time!

Tip #:10Feed the Little Monsters!  Make sure you think about when you will be flying & if you need to pack "meals" or snacks will suffice.  We were flying over at least one meal time & didn't want to have to spend money or deal with finding decent food in the airport so we packed protein filled foods.  Our little lunchbox was stuffed with hard boiled eggs, cut up avocado, string cheese, stonyfield's version of go-gurts, & some melon & blueberries.  We tried to plan snacks that had some staying power, we were pretty sure they would be happy to eat, & were as least messy as possible.  But really, nothing is mess free with toddlers & the gogurts definitely needed to be "mom-controlled!"  We also tried to balance the novel & familiarity when it comes to snacks too.  We intentionally didn't give them some of their favorite snacks for the week or so before the flight so they would be more exciting when we busted them out in the plane (TJs cinnamon apple sticks & multigrain crackers).  We also got some snacks we never get like Annie's bunny grahams, pretzel rods & yogurt covered raisins.  We did overpack on snacks, but that meant we had some left for the ride home so that was nice.

 Tip #11: Prepare to be exhausted!  Our flights went very smoothly & the kiddos were very well behaved with only a few minimal bursts of crying/whining, but let's be clear, it is NOT just because we have "good kids."  All our planning of activities & snacks paid off and we worked our tails off changing activities, quietly singing songs, reading books, & telling stories!  Do your very best to stay positive & keep your energy up!  That means making sure you have easy access to quick snacks for yourself too!  And if at all possible, recruit help on the other end so you can get a mini break from entertaining babies when you get to your destination!  Having help when you get there is great too because it's tricky to manage bags, getting out to the car & getting the car seats installed in a new, unfamiliar car!

I think the take home message for traveling with triplet toddlers is to be prepared!!!  

The ups & downs of parenting triplets

I think that for the most part I've tried to paint a fairly realistic picture of what our journey has been like raising triplets thus far.  Though looking back briefly, I'm sure that I've slanted things towards the positive, sometimes glossing over or not really posting much about the hard times.  (I guess that fits with our general world view and our attempts to "roll with the punches" & try to enjoy this adventure.)  But over the past week I've managed to capture a few snippets of both the good times, where you get a glimpse of just how fun it is to be a MoM (mother of multiples), as well as the hard times.

sometimes it feels like there's just not enough mom to go around!

I will say, is much harder,and mostly impossible to capure the hard times on video because the hard times are often those when you feel like you don't have enough arms or can't be in multiple places at the same time.  And I know those feelings are not unique to being a triplet mom, but sometimes it is overwhelming, like when I'm in the middle of changing Avery and Ellie is about to stick her hand in the potty which is full of Avery's poop and Isaiah is whining/crying and climbing on top of me making it impossible to get Avery's diaper on & keep Ellie's hand out of the potty for the umpteenth time! It's times like that that we never get videos of because if there are extra hands on board they sure as heck better be grabbing Ellie before she's covered in poop rather than documenting the event!  Sure, we can sometimes capture the "herding cats" moments like trying to get all three of them out of the entry way and the catfood and dog water bowl, but poop is a different story!

Here's one quick clip I captured recently.  I was trying to get dinner ready and had all three pulling on my pants legs at one point and whining so I finally gave up on dinner prep hoping http://youtu.be/a2L4-e8uxlwthat if I sat on the floor I could engage them in something. And this is what I got...

direct YouTube link in case the video won't play

I did eventually just sit them all down while they carried on (after giving hugs all around) and dumped out a tray of ice cubes for them to play with, which eventually worked after a bit of coaxing and gave me the five minutes I needed to get dinner ready.

And because there really are lots of amazing and wonderful moments to offset the hard times I'll leave you with a couple of adorable videos I got at my cousin's house in Massachusetts.  The loved trying to look out his front window and thought the sheer curtains were pretty great.  It is so fun to see the interacting more and more every month.

Ellie & Isaiah in the curtains

Avery & Isaiah in the curtains

"Guest" post: The points system: When you can't do it all. Learning to breastfeed triplets, part 1

For "Throwback Thursday" this week we have a special guest post by Michelle, reflecting back on the most helpful advice she got from a lactation consultant while trying to "do it all" surviving the first week of breastfeeding triplets.  Here's Michelle!

I initially set out to write a product review and realized that I really wanted to talk about what I've learned about breastfeeding and then do the product review of Rumina's pump&nurse products. (stayed tuned for this in pt. 2)

I really knew very little about breastfeeding before the trio were born.  I had seen others do it of course and I knew from friends that it was not going to be super easy or awesome at first.  Mari had been pumping for months, so I'd seen her do that, but I really didn't know the mechanics of pumping either.  We had visited a lactation consultant (LC) before the babies were born and while she was enthusiastic and supportive, she didn't get into "how to's" at all.

When the babies were born (via c-section at 34 wks), I was told to pump within 2 hours, but was still in "recovery" and Mari was in the NICU with the babies, so I wasn't sure how to begin! Thankfully a LC visited to walk me through that first dairy cow-like experience of hooking my udders, er breasts, up to the pump.  I don't remember too many details from the first week of nursing because the combination of pain meds, sleep deprivation, and the stress of having three babies in the NICU leads to memory loss, literally! But I do remember that it felt very stressful and exhausting. I know I sought out help from the LCs at the hospital often and remember it feeling rather unhelpful with one exception: a very seasoned and practical LC who taught me a valuable lesson that I wanted to share with new nursing moms!

Because we had three babies to feed, we had to work hard to establish a good milk supply. While the babies were in the NICU we were told to pump every 2 hrs during the day and at least every 4 hours at night and to definitely get 8 times in 24 hours.  This is in addition to attempting to nurse the babies so they could learn to nurse and recovering from major surgery! (Not to mention visiting with a million doctors coming to check on me and/or the babies).  While I don't remember details, I clearly remember feeling completely overwhelmed with trying to fit so many things into a 24 hr period! Oh, and of course, I was also being told to rest (sleep is important for milk supply) and eat (a healthy diet, also important for milk supply).  I literally could NOT follow all the advice! 

I was feeling stressed about getting enough nursing and pumping in during each 24 hr period and am so thankful for the advice of the seasoned LC who taught me a system that helped me find some balance.  She told me to think of "things good for milk supply" as a whole and to give myself points for everything that met the definition. If I took a nap, I got points! If I tried nursing babies, more points! Kangaroo care? Points! Pumping? Points. She made me feel like I didn't have to, and really couldn't, do it all and that was okay.   If I couldn't nurse them, then pump. If I couldn't pump, eat a good lunch and cuddle with a baby.  It all counted!

This was such a relief to me.  I still tried to pump and nurse as often as possible, but I stopped being rigid about doing it all so many times per day!  Letting go of that let me focus more on enjoying our three precious babies.

cuddle time with Avery? Points...

Kangaroo care with Ellie? Points...

taking a nap? Points...
(no I didn't REALLY nap with all 3 in bed covered in a sheet, but it did make a cute pic!)

Part 2...what happens when three babies and two nursing moms leave the hospital? Coming soon...

A day in the life...with 3-4 month old triplets

I've been meaning to write an updated version of our "day in the life" post for weeks now and just haven't managed to get started. By the time you finish reading this post I think you'll understand why. Here's an average day these days: (we've essentially been on the same schedule since two and a half or three months)

7ish- Wake up & eat (most days Isaiah is our alarm clock). We each nurse one baby in our room while, hopefully, baby #3 is still sleeping. Feedings are generally taking about 20-25 min most times. We keep hearing this shoud be getting faster & it is, but not as quickly as we'd like. They are sometimes finishing in 15 minutes though.  Hopefully that is a trend!

7:30- Michelle feeds #3 & I change stinky overnight diapers, most often poopy. All babies get Zantac for reflux.

7:45-Playtime-Usually in the activity gym in our bedroom (Some days this is about when I leave for a work visit, leaving Michelle to get everyone down). Baby 3 gets changed.

8:30ish- Babies 1 & 2 start getting sleepy and get put down for a nap.   Nap time routine is a song or two and then down in their cribs. (Some days they're back down as early as 8/8:15 if they seem really sleepy). If we're both home one of us might get a shower while there's only one baby awake or go make breakfast.

9ish-Baby #3 goes down & moms eat breakfast if we haven't already squeezed it in cuz we were starving.  Usually enough time to get dressed, brush teeth, etc too.

9:30-Babies 1 & 2 wake up and eat...feeding party has moved to the living room now.

10-Two diapers & playtime in activity gym, bumbo, tummy time, etc.  Baby 3 up to eat (This is another time I might head out for work visit & be back by 12 or after baby 3 eats I send Michelle to the bedroom to do homework while I handle the babies.)

10:30-Diaper time for baby #3 who then joins playtime in the living room.

11ish-Babies 1 & 2 go down There's always about a 15 min leeway on either side for naps that vary between 45 min to a little over an hour. So if they seem like they're getting sleepy earlier, down they go.  If one baby wakes up early, lately they've been content to have some quiet time in the swing until baby 2 wakes up to eat..usually no more than ~15 min.

11:15/30- Baby 3 down for nap & moms get laundry moving, eat lunch, or maybe Michelle tries to do a quick homework task or make a meal plan. (Note the OR in the above statement! There's typically time for one task...especially when one of the first two down wakes up early or baby #3 has a hard time going down.)

12- Babies up to eat (As before baby 3 is 15-30 behind 1 & 2)

Repeat feeding-diaper-playtime-nap cycles with feedings around 2:30 & 5. Difference being that as the day progresses naps get harder and less consistent, often needing more intervention to get them to sleep, which means we get less done.

7:30-Start bedtime routine. For this cycle we do diaper changes first, getting them in their overnight diapers. Then we swaddle them, nurse them, read a couple books, sing our goodnight version of Frere Jaques and lay them in their crib, drowsy but awake. Typically, they all go down pretty easily with minimal fighting. If they do fight it, we set a 5min timer before going in to soothe. That's usually all it takes before they are off to dreamland.  This is the longest stretch of sleep, typically from about 8:30/9 to between 1 & 2. Some nights we have an early wake up but they usually soothe themselves back to sleep. On really lucky nights they might sleep until 2:30.

9-9:30-We get ourselves ready for bed, prep nighttime snacks, and pump right before bed. We are typically in bed by 9:15/9:30.

1 or 2a.m.-First night feeding. These night feedings are all business. Everyone stays swaddled, eats in the dark in our bedroom, and right back down. Usually no problems going back down though a few times lately Avery has gotten upset when we lay her back down. We do a quick pump after this feeding too because even though it means less sleep, it's a lot easier to pump at night than it is during the day now. The babies are just too busy for us to pump during the day now. Hopefully our milk supplies will keep up. So far so good. Our snack for this feeding is almost always an apple cut into thin slices.

4/5a.m.- 2nd night feeding. Same as the first only we don't pump after this one since by the time they're all back in bed we usually only have an hour or two left to sleep. Some days, like when I have an 8am visit or Michelle is feeling particularly stressed about school we just stay up after this feeding. It's a hard choice to make, but we usually get a lot done when we do it. As you can see from the schedule above, the longest window we have to accomplish any task is about 30 minutes and if we stay up after this feeding we might have almost 90 minutes of continuous time to work, which feels like an eternity. But, when we do stay up, we've generally gotten about 6 hours of sleep so we can't do this all the time or we get worn down.

And then we start it all over again around 7a.m.!  We keep waiting for their cycles to stretch out a bit, but they're just not ready yet, I guess. They are pretty good at letting us know when they need to sleep and are very clear about when they need to eat!!

And that's our life these days! Whew, anyone else feel tired just reading this?!

Lots of sleepy babies